About Me

Name: V. Thomas...
Email: vtmawhinney@comcast.net Biography
Loading...

Create Your Own Blog Find Other Townhall Blogs

Comments

Archives

Blog Roll

 

Divorce, or Break-Up, When There Are Children?

Divorce , or Break-Up, When There Are Children ?

As a therapist, I find counseling with couples without children who contemplate divorce to be mildly stressful. I always want to help people to solve the problems that they are coping with.

But, with married couples without children who fail to remain together, the pain and stress to them and their families normally does not damage any children and I take solace in that. If one or both are determined to divorce, I shrug my shoulders with resignation and sadly say, O.K., go ahead.

When I am working with a married or formerly commited couple with children who fail to remain together, it is a gut-wrenching experience for me. I am pretty good at letting go of the therapeutic process when there is nothing left that I can do. But, I do everything in my power to persuade married or committed couples to consider the effects of their divorce upon their children.

Please allow me a brief fantasy.

If I were king, I would decree that no couple with children could separate before their children had graduated from high school. After all, the children did not ask to be brought into this world only to be separated from those who they have grown to love and depend upon for life, security. and normal growth and development.

In my fantasy, in this day and age of easy contraception, I would lecture to my kingdom:
 

"You brought that infant into the world and now it is your obligation to raise that child to the best of your ability. Your personal hopes and desires are secondary in importance to the needs of your child...and your child needs you to stay together to help him or her grow to the age of independence.

Sorry, that's just the way it is. Besides, when you were married you took an oath before God to remain married, 'Till Death Do Us Part'.

Why don't you now just commit to, 'Till Our Children Depart', and worry about the rest later.
 
Now, let's get to work to do the best job that you can possibly do raising your children and also find as much happiness during this process as is possible".
 
O.K., the fantasy is over. Don't get mad...it was only a fantasy!
The hard reality is that there are several good reasons to get a divorce, in spite of the hazards to the children involved. I am convinced by 30 + years of practice, that when children are involved, the marriage deal-breakers should only be 1. Physical or Sexual Abuse; 2. Chronic Untreatable Emotional Abuse; 3. Chronic Untreatable Infidelity; and 4. Chronic Untreatable Alcohol or Drug Addiction or Abuse.
I believe these family problems normally put children at greater risk for harm than a divorce.
But for all other cases that include children, there is a moral responsibility to the children involved and to society to enter marriage/couples counseling and to try as hard as possible to improve the existing problems. Reasonable estimates of improved relations in couple's relationships are between 60% and 70%.

If you are considering a divorce or terminating your relationship with your partner, and you have children, stop and think about what will happen to them. I ask that you please have the courage to study the following links and then protect your children with all of your might.

This first link describes the harms that are likely to occur to your children.

http://www.divorcereform.org/psy.html

This second link describes the harms that accrue to society when marriages or couples with children break-up.

http://www.heritage.org/research/family/bg1373.cfm

V. Thomas Mawhinney, Ph.D.   11/21/09

Email ItEmail It | Print ItPrint It | CommentsComments (0) | TrackbacksTrackbacks (0) | Flag as offensiveFlag as Offensive

The Theocracy of America

The Theocracy of America

I have viewed progressive secular humanism as a religion for many years. The separation of church and state argument raised by them and enforced through the ACLU and our progressive governments is nothing but smoke and mirrors. It is a scurrilous and deceitful tactic designed to implant its own “supreme god” and religious beliefs of our youth. During this modern dark age, the progressive liberal church of state and media punishes those who are experienced enough,  educated enough, and courageous enough to criticize this new false religion with “fire and brimstone” allegations of blasphemy. Blasphemers are consigned to hell-on-earth as they are forever publicly lashed and tormented by the church’s state-run media.

The amazing truth is that under the false and misleading banner of “separation of church and state”, the progressive secular humanists are now on the verge of creating  The Theocracy of America.

The following article appears on Townhall.com.  It is written by columnist Ken Blackwell. In my view, he is spot on. I therefore present it in its entirety.

V. Thomas Mawhinney, Ph.D.

11/19/09

One of the reasons liberals are so hostile to public expressions of Christianity is because it threatens the monopoly that the religion of liberalism enjoys in the public square. The late Ted Kennedy was more than a leading senator, to liberal supporters. He was a secular saint. His appeal was essentially religious. He made it fairly explicit in his famous concession speech to the Democratic National Convention that re-nominated President Jimmy Carter. Kennedy reduced thousands of liberal delegates to tears with this emotional peroration:

 May it be said of our Party in 1980 that we found our faith again.

 And may it be said of us, both in dark passages and in bright days, in the words of Tennyson that my brothers quoted and loved, and that have special meaning for me now:

 “I am a part of all that I have met
[Tho] much is taken, much abides
That which we are, we are –
One equal temper of heroic hearts
Strong in will
To strive, to seek, to find, and not to yield.”

 For me, a few hours ago, this campaign came to an end.

 For all those whose cares have been our concern, the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die.

 Not for Ted Kennedy the cool rationalism of his party’s founder, Thomas Jefferson. Jefferson had famously said “if I had to go to Heaven in a political party, I would not go at all.” For Ted Kennedy and for those weeping delegates, the Democratic Party holds that place that used to be reserved for church and church alone. It’s no wonder that those teary believers—more than 90 percent of whom tell researchers they never go to church—end their search for the meaning of life in political activism.

 Analyze Kennedy’s Epistle to the Gentiles and you will see that the concern, the work, the cause, the hope, the dream that is the subject of his panegyric is government. Government giveth and Government taketh away. The only Government worthy of that capital G is one that provides health, education, and welfare. All Americans are invited into the Democratic Church. Only the heretical conservatives are excluded.

 Speaker Nancy Pelosi was at the Kennedy School at Harvard last week. Liberals go to Harvard the way Muslims go to Mecca. Pelosi was basking in liberal approval for having been the first Speaker to deliver on the promise of universal health care. She established her bona fides early in her sermon. “For thirty years I’ve been an advocate of single payer,” she said. Single payer is liberal speak for socialized medicine, run entirely by the state, paid for by the state. But we have to make some tactical compromises, she said. Well, there may have to be a few little detours on the road to the Heavenly Liberal City.

 “We all have our theology in politics,” she said to murmurs of approval from her audience. When Gov. George W. Bush said in a Republican debate in 2000 that Jesus Christ was his favorite political philosopher, liberals were aghast. But when Nancy Pelosi speaks of “theology,” we must assume she uses the word the way Webster defines it: “the study of religious faith, practice, and experience; especially : the study of God and of God’s relation to the world.”

 For Pelosi, God commands universal health care without a restriction on funding abortion. And God apparently also commands the repeal of the Defense of Marriage Act. Pelosi invoked the patron saint of San Francisco. She recited the prayer of St. Francis of Assisi. It was probably the first time in history that that gentle saint was dragged in to bless the slaughter of innocents and the abolition of matrimony.

 Predictably, there were no ACLU protests. And no atheizers ran to MSNBC to deplore her breaching the Wall of Separation between Church and State.

Pelosi was perfectly free not only to preach her religious ideas, but to impose jail time and fines on those who dissent. In the Gospel According to Nancy, the liberal Preacher of the House promises to bring the liberal Heaven to Earth. Is it any wonder growing numbers of Americans think it’s a living hell?

Written by Ken Blackwell

 

Email ItEmail It | Print ItPrint It | CommentsComments (0) | TrackbacksTrackbacks (0) | Flag as offensiveFlag as Offensive

Merry Christmas and God's Blessings To You!

Merry Christmas and God’s Blessings To You!

As the times of Thanksgiving and Christmas draw near, there are already renewed and growing assaults upon America’s traditional Christian  Holidays. We Christian’s are too damned meek.

The assertion that the concept of  ”separation of church and state” demands that these traditional celebrations must be expunged from our language and from all public places is a hideous lie. It is a lie that is successfully propagandized throughout our young population by the popular media and secular progressives in our legal and political sectors.

Our National Monuments, our Capital Building, Supreme Court, and Library of Congress are replete with Christian Religious writings, etched boldly and deeply into their stone records of our heritage. Yes, folks, this is public property.

The sceptic is advised to read Newt Gingrich’s book, “Rediscovering God in America (2006), published by Integrity Publishers, TN.  There, he or she will find dozens of other “slap you in the face” illustrations of this huge countercultural propagandist’s lie.

America! Keep fighting the forces of our undoing!

V. Thomas Mawhinney, Ph.D.   11/18/09

Email ItEmail It | Print ItPrint It | CommentsComments (0) | TrackbacksTrackbacks (0) | Flag as offensiveFlag as Offensive

Fetal Alcohol Syndrom (FAS)

Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS)

Women who drink alcohol during pregnancy put their infants at risk for biological damage. Binge drinking among college students and early alcohol consumption among teens has increased dramatically. Alcohol consumption during pregnancy increases the risks of a newborn infant suffering from fetal alcohol syndrome (FAS). FAS often shows itself in head and facial deformities that tend to create elf-like facial features, slow growth, abnormal joints (feet, fingers, toes), heart defects, tremors and agitation in newborns, hyperactivity, learning disabilities, abnormal brain development and possible mild to moderate mental retardation.

Rough estimates of the occurrence of FAS are 1 to 2 of every 1000 babies. This figure increases to around 29 of 1000 women who heavily consume alcohol early in their pregnancies.

In general, Alcohol consumption among our female population has also increased in recent decades. Guidelines for the safe consumption of alcohol during pregnancy are not clear and this has led many health professionals to recommend zero alcohol use during pregnancy.

This leaves society with three major problems: The first is that many pregnant women do not get this message. Secondly, many of the women who do understand that alcohol is dangerous to their in-utero developing babies simply behave irresponsibly: some knowingly take the risks of alcohol consumption during pregnancy. In many other cases pregnant women are addicted to alcohol and believe they cannot control their alcohol intake. Finally, and most diabolically, women may drink alcohol during that early time interval when they have not yet discovered that they are pregnant.

 Physical and neurological damage caused by woman who consume alcohol or other drugs during pregnancy cannot be cured. These infants are damaged for the rest of their lives. The effects of these impairments will reverberate for at least three generations: the mother’s life, the child’s life, and the lives of the many others with whom the damaged and growing person will interact. The costs in lost human potential and financial resources of substance abuse to the unborn and society are huge and difficult to establish.

What, in general,  are the costs of an impaired child through life?  There are the costs of special education, unemployment, medical care and welfare. Insurance costs must increase as well as our taxes. What about the costs of crime law enforcement, prosecution, prison?

We seldom think about the costs to us all of the behavioral contagion that I have outlined above.  If we fail to control these costs to society through prevention, this human source drain upon our health and viabilitycan destroy America’s health and viability.

We must  prevent FAS and other factors that destroy our children.

I am reminded of a nursery rhyme from my childhood:

Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall. Humpty Dumpty had a great fall. All the Kings men and all the Kings horses couldn’t put poor Humpty Dumpty together again.”

The prevention of our human problems is the best way.

V. Thomas Mawhinney, Ph.D.  11/17/09

 

Email ItEmail It | Print ItPrint It | CommentsComments (0) | TrackbacksTrackbacks (0) | Flag as offensiveFlag as Offensive

Conduct Disorder In Our Children And Youth

Conduct Disorder In Our Children And Youth

Children diagnosed with conduct disorder show a repetitive and persistent tendency to disrespect and violate the rights of others and to break normal societal rules and also laws. Conduct Disorder may be identified in children before 10 years and up to 18 years of age. It can be diagnosed in individuals older than 18 years, but only if they do not meet the criteria for Antisocial Personality Disorder which I will discuss in a later blog.  Briefly, Antisocial Personality Disorder is a life-long disorder that is more severe than Conduct Disorder. The early appearance of Conduct Disorder in a child makes it more likely that the problem will continue into Antisocial Personality disorder in adulthood.

Conduct Disorder may be classified as mild, moderate or severe in nature. Frequently, children with mild cases of this disorder can be helped with therapeutic interventions and the problem may improve with maturity. Severe cases are more likely to continue into adulthood and form a long-term pattern of deeply ingrained antisocial behavior patterns that are highly resistant to change. The majority of our prison populations would be diagnosed as Antisocial Personality Disordered.

 The list of actions shown by the children diagnosed with Conduct Disorder can be alarming. A partial list of such behaviors is as follows:

Recklessness and risk-taking
Curfew violations
Truancy from school
Running away from home overnight or longer
Lying, deceiving or “conning” others
Early sexual activity
Tobacco, drug and alcohol use
Bullying, threatening, intimidating and fighting
Using weapons (stones, clubs, knives, guns)
Breaking and entering homes, cars, or other buildings
Cruelty of people and/or animals
Property destruction (vandalism)
Robbery, extortion, mugging, purse snatching (while confronting the victim)
Assault and, rarely, murder

Conduct Disorder has increased in prevalence over several decades and rates are around 6% to 16% for males and 2% to 9% for females.

Suspected Causes

Many very bad childhood experiences appear to be tied to the development of Conduct Disorder. Parents who are drug involved, or have mental disorders of their own are more likely to have conduct disordered children. Research also suggests that the tendency to develop Conduct Disorder behavior patterns is genetically inheritable. Children so diagnosed frequently have experienced traumatic events, poverty, family disorganization, abuse, neglect, and abandonment. They have frequently lived in poverty and grown up around violent peers and adults. Children with a biological or adoptive parent with Anti-social Personality Disorder or a sibling with Conduct Disorder, are themselves at greater risk for developing a conduct disorder.

A Case Study

One 15 year old’s father was in prison for killing someone. The boy had visited his father in prison on numerous occasions and sometimes got phone calls from him. Despite his father’s pleadings to him to do good in school, follow the rules and stay out of trouble, the boy was failing in school, frequently suspended, and had been in a juvenile detention center for threatening and attacking other students. The boy’s mother had lived with several other men in the course of his short life-time and he had experienced drugs, violence, and the physical abuse of his mother and himself repeatedly. After frequently running away from home and being involved with older men and drug abuse, he was placed in a long-term adolescent treatment facility. The boys Conduct Disorder was severe in nature, with an early onset,  and it was likely that his behavior patterns would continue into adulthood and then be diagnosed as Antisocial Personality Disorder.

We must find ways to save our infants and children from these incredibly damaging influences. The majority of these human tragedies can be prevented before their contagious effects spread thoughout our population. Our current late remediation strategies are failing miserably and are doomed to fail by the very nature of this intractable psychological disability. 

America must create bold preventive and very early interventions to avoid the continued escalation of the social havoc that we now experience due to our increasing rates of Conduct Disorders. 

 V. Thomas Mawhinney, Ph.D.    11/14/09

Email ItEmail It | Print ItPrint It | CommentsComments (0) | TrackbacksTrackbacks (0) | Flag as offensiveFlag as Offensive

The Causes of Good and Evil

The Causes of Good and Evil

Aurelius Augustine (354-430 AD), better known as St. Augustine wrote the following:

“WHAT IS CALLED EVIL IN THE UNIVERSE IS BUT THE ABSENCE OF GOOD.”

From a scientific perspective, I judge that St Augustine was correct. I will confess my bias when I contemplate the sweet and wonderful beauty of an infant, of any race, from any place in the world. The growth of good or evil all begins with the birth of an infant, and what happens to it from there on.

I will define evil as those behaviors which commonly damage the lives of the doer, as well as the lives of those with whom they associate directly, or indirectly.

It is the infant’s environment, and his or her experiences in that environment, that will teach the behavior patterns that we call evil or good. If we protect and teach good behavior to our infants, from the very beginning, evil rarely emerges.

On the same topic, St. Augustine wrote:

“IT IS NOT ESSENTIAL TO MAN’S HAPPINESS THAT HE SHOULD KNOW THE CAUSES OF PHYSICAL CONVULSIONS; BUT IT IS, THAT HE SHOULD KNOW THE CAUSE OF GOOD AND EVIL.”

Knowing the causes and cures of our physical ailments is certainly a good thing. However, as we have made wonderful advances in this area of human development, we remain failures at managing our own behavior.

Behavioral scientists have long demonstrated that by differentially withholding rewards from bad behavior and rewarding good behavior, the good behavior is deferentially strengthened. In other words, Good when strengthened in ways we know well, comes to dominate Evil.

All of this is nothing more than a restatement of Psychology’s well-known premier Law of Effect: Consequences Control Behavior.

Politics are a mechanism cultural design and/or cultural redesign. If we will redesign America such that our precious rewards are given to those who show good behavior (work hard, follow rules and laws, behave responsibly, care for their children, and treat others with kindness and compassion); And if we withhold our precious rewards from those who do bad—the Good in us will naturally predominate.

V. Thomas Mawhinney, Ph.D.
11/13/09

Email ItEmail It | Print ItPrint It | CommentsComments (0) | TrackbacksTrackbacks (0) | Flag as offensiveFlag as Offensive

Oppositional-Defiant Disorder in Children

Oppositional-Defiant Disorder in Children

Symptoms

An all to common problem in our children is Oppositional-Defiant Disorder: This diagnosis is not given to children over 18 years of age, or to those who qualify for a more the problematic diagnosis of Conduct Disorder (to be discussed soon). Oppositional-defiant disordered children are disobedient, hostile, defiant, and negative toward authority figures.  They fight compliance with instructions or requests and they are stubborn and will not compromise with adults or friends. Theyoften test limits and do things to purposefully annoy others. These children show frequent hostility to authority figures and peers by arguing with and, in other ways, deliberately annoying them. They also purposefully break the rules that they are reasonably expected to follow. Oppositional-defiant children are often angry, resentful, spiteful and vindictive.  Generally, their aggression remains at the verbal level and any physical aggression, if it occurs,  remains mild to moderate in nature.

The oppositional and defiant behaviors displayed by these children are often focused intensively upon those who they are closest to (at home with parents and siblings), but they can also be directed at anyone who sets rules or limits upon their behavior. Psychologists and other therapists may not see a child’s oppositional-defiant behavior in their office (even with the parents present) but it will be abundantly present at home and sometimes elsewhere too. A child’s oppositional-defiant behavior may or may not be in evidence at school.

Rates of Oppositional-Defiant Disorder have been estimated to be from 2 to 16%, depending upon the populations sampled and the measures used.

Over the past 40 years, I have been called into schools to consult with teachers and principals to help with student’s behavior problems. I am convinced that oppositional-defiant rates have increased substantially. Rates of occurrence are higher for males before puberty, but are more equal between males and females after puberty is reached. Even so, males tend to be more confrontational than females.

These children may also show other psychological disorders such as ADHD, depression, anxiety, or learning and communication disorders.

Case Study

One adolescent male was born and raised in a family where the father was exceedingly demanding upon him. His mother was permissive and protective towards the boy and there was almost constant conflict between she and her resentful and compulsively demanding husband over the boys disciplinary issues. The boy was very bright and got good grades at school, but the father insisted upon all A’s stating that he was not living up to his potential. The boy’s behavior at school was exemplary and he was in various clubs and athletics. However, at home, he was manipulative and demanding of money, car privileges, and excessive freedom. His father almost always said “no” to these demands and his mother almost always countermanded the father’s judgement. The adolescent’s tactics involved angry, insulting and disrespectful behavior, and noncompliance with the requests of both of his parents. But, he was most likely to focus his blustery and unrelenting tantrum-like demands upon his mother. This was especially likely when his father was not at home. The mother frequently gave-in to her son’s demands. As you might guess, this rewarded the boy’s behavior and set the occasion for the next round of arguments between the mother and father. This adolescent’s oppositional-defiant characteristics appeared to be born of his parents polarized disunity, his resulting ability to further split and alienate them from each other, the ensuing conflict between the parents, and the family chaos that resulted. The adolescent  was therefore in a better position to divide and conquer his parents authority in the future.

Suspected Causes

Oppositional-Defiant Disorder is more prevalent in families that have had many different care-givers and where inconsistent, harsh, abusive or neglectful child rearing methods have been used. It is also more likely to be found in homes where at least one parent has had a mood disorder (depression/bipolar), or other similar, perhaps more intense, disruptive disorders

Oppositional Defiant Disorder is more prevalent in males and children who are temperamental and show low self-esteem and low frustration tolerance. This disorder thrives on disorganization and is more common in homes where there have been many care-takers. Im my experience divorce or multiple mates and pregnancies out-of-wedlock frequently set the stage for this kind of chaos. Also, harsh or abusive treatment, irresponsible and neglectful parents, or significant mental illness, is frequently involved in the lives of children who show Oppositional-Defiant Disorder.

In many cases, parents can prevent these problems, if they will behave responsibly, work together and seek the assistance of an experienced behavior therapist with very good counseling and behavior modification skills. 

V. Thomas Mawhinney, Ph.D.

11/13/09

Email ItEmail It | Print ItPrint It | CommentsComments (0) | TrackbacksTrackbacks (0) | Flag as offensiveFlag as Offensive

Borders!

Borders!

I received an Email from a friend, comparing what illegal aliens get when they cross the borders of some countries and what they get when they cross America’s borders. It is circulating the internet like so much stuff is nowadays. Of course, some of the stuff floating around is very good and some is junk.

I have taken the time to verify the items that this Email alleged are  available to illegal aliens who cross America’s boarders and therefore I think it is something that you should be aware of when you go to the ballot box.
Regarding what happens to illegal aliens when they cross into N. Korea, Iran, Afghanistan, China, Venezuela, Cuba, Russia, etc., I have not taken the time to validate the precise consequences listed below. So, I do not know if Illegal aliens are shot, kept for 12 yrs. (Or 2,4,6,8,10 yr.), never heard from again, or whatever. But I don’t think that the details matter.
What matters is that there is “hell to pay” and, over the years, my awareness of news reports (both liberal and conservative) has generally informed me of this fact. This general knowledge is all that is needed to present the following stark contrast:
  •  If you cross the North Korean border illegally you get 12 years
     hard labor.
  • If you cross the Iranian border illegally, you are detained
     indefinitely.
  •  If you cross the Afghan border illegally, you get shot.
  •  If you cross the Saudi Arabian border illegally, you will be
    jailed.
  •  If you cross the Chinese border illegally, you may never be
    heard from again.
  • If you cross the Venezuelan border illegally, you will be
    branded a spy and your fate will be sealed.
  • If you cross the Cuban border illegally, you will be thrown
    into political prison to rot.

If you cross America’s border illegally, you can get:

  • A job
  • A drivers license
  •  A social security card
  •  Welfare
  •  Food stamps
  •  Credit cards
  •  Subsidized rent or a loan to buy a house
  •  Free education
  •  Free health care
  •  A lobbyist in Washington
  •  And in many instances you can vote
I will bet that if we randomly ask our voting age youth on the street, as might the comedian Jay Leno, “how these gifts to illegal aliens are payed for” —-many will answer, “with money from the Government”.

Such an answer was once an amusing sign of ignorance. This answer is now especially terrifying because it is a continued show of ignorance in a time of  unimaginable national financial crisis. This answer is even more fearful because it used to be a truism that the government did not have any money..”the money” was extracted by the government from our working citizens.
 
Now the U.S. Government not only takes all it can from working citizens, but it also borrows more than it can pay back from our enemies.  Also, if it hasn’t already done so, it may simply begin to print more money for itself.
Then it can give more money to the Illegal Aliens and their children; and anyone else who will vote to keep them in power!

If we run our families this way,  they will fail.
If we run our socioculture this way, it will fail.

V. Thomas Mawhinney, 11/12/09

Email ItEmail It | Print ItPrint It | CommentsComments (0) | TrackbacksTrackbacks (0) | Flag as offensiveFlag as Offensive

Attention-Deficit/Hyperactive Disorder (ADHD)

Attention-deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)

Some children seem unmanageable to both their parents and teachers. They have trouble paying attention to things that other children can easily focus in on. They frequently do not follow instructions, do not finish tasks, are careless and messy in their school work, and become frustrated and give up on challenging work. These children are also likely to be disorganized and easily distracted by irrelevant stimuli (trivial noises, or other features of people or the environment), and they have trouble following rules.

Children with attention problems may, or may not, show the additional problem of hyperactivity. What we call hyperactivity consists of frequently and rapidly doing a large number of annoying things such as squirming and fidgeting, running, jumping, shouting, climbing and walking on furniture or tables, all of which can lead to danger and make them accident prone.  They may also annoy others by tapping, poking, pulling, and pushing on them, or the various things around them. Such children often talk loudly, rapidly and excessively which makes them difficult and  irritating to be with.

Hyperactivity naturally includes actions that we call impulsive . These children may frequently knock things over, bump into people, or break and spill things. They interrupt, “goof around”, “blurt-out” interrupting comments, touch things and people that they should not, and do things that are dangerous without thinking about the consequences of their actions.

Children who behave these ways tend to do so in a wide variety of settings (school, church, vacations, home), but some settings and activities worsen these problems. Generally conditions that require sitting still, concentrating, and doing monotonous tasks, requiring close attention and concentration, will produce more such troubles.

It is common for children to show some of these behavior patterns when they are younger than four of five years old. However, if these actions persist and intensify ADHD may be diagnosed in their early school years, when they first begin to encounter public social and educational problems. ADHD is diagnosed much more often in boys than it is in girls.

Untreated ADHD symptoms can lead to other very significant problems and impairments. About half of these children develop various learning and communication problems and about 80% of them misbehave, often quite seriously.

One preschool child showed almost all of these features. He ran away and climbed under the dresses of manikins in stores.  In play, he ran jumped and yelled so loud  that he could be heard though-out the neighborhood. School problems started in kindergarten when he constantly played and splashed the water in a shallow ceramic gold fish pond built into the floor in his classroom. He wandered away from story time, and made noises and talked to others at rest time (they used to have children rest upon little mates on the floor). Due to the mischief he caused, teachers naturally suspected him whenever there was a problem of unknown origin. Negative expectations by teachers and others who care for such children is common. He was once accused of stealing things from his kindergarten teachers desk (he was innocent). Later he had great difficulty learning to read and to do mathematics. His parents tutored him and they became exceedingly frustrated while trying. But his parents never gave up and they hired tutors. In grade school, while the teacher was trying to hold class attention, he notice the first snow of winter and loudly directed class attention out the windows to see that “great event”. He similarly interrupted class to announce that men were working on the traffic light at the corner, just outside of the school, and all of the students ran to the window to see. This boy was quite a challenge.

I am both happy and mildly embarrased to report that this boy was me. I extend my deepest heartfelt appreciation to all of my heroic helpers of the distant past and, especially, to my beloved mother and father who did a wonderful job in a day when there was “no such thing as ADHD”. The experts said I was “just all boy”. That was indeed the truth, but it was not the whole truth.

Suspected Causes

ADHD behaviors appear to be caused by many things; and these things appear to summate and interact with each other. Attention-deficit/hyperactive disorder tends to run in families and may have an inherited biological basis (this was, and is, very true in my family). Also, the disorder was once called Minimal Brain Dysfunction, attesting to the possiblitity of actual neurological damage attributable to fetal development or birth related problems. There is also the suspicion that ADHD may be caused by slowly maturing parts of the brain that filter extraneous stimuli and which are needed to help concentration. Furthermore, there is some evidence that this pattern of behavior is more prevalent among homes that suffer high levels of stress, chaos and family dysfunction: This suggests that these behavior patterns can occur in children who simply failed to learn to follow rules, organize and attend in orderly ways to their environmental surroundings. As you can see, as with many psychological disorders, there is no one cause for ADHD.

Learning Disorders

ADHD puts children at increased risk of developing significant academic learning problems. A learning disorder is diagnosed when a child’s achievement test scores fall significantly behind those of his normal peers. The child’s existing learning problems then interfere with the learning of new information and the child falls further and further behind the academic achievements of his peers.

When an ADHD child has trouble being patient and focusing upon uninteresting details and activities they will have difficulty learning to read, learning mathematics, and learning to write. Putting information into memory, to a large extent, requires that we focus upon information and work to make sense of that information, or repeat it over and over again (i.e., do rote learning). Doing this effortful work is the main way in which we place our academic information in our long-term memory. 

There are ways, other than having ADHD, that children can develop learning disorders.  Research has implicated other possible causes of learning disorders such as: Inferior teaching, poor diet, lead poisoning, genetic defects, birth injuries, and sensory and perceptual problems. The true causes of a child’s learning disorder, in many cases, remain uncertain.

Effective treatment for ADHD involves early detection and treatment. The behavior problems involved in ADHD should be treated first with behavior modification methods. After consulting a pediatrician, further professional assistance from psychologists who can teach parents behavior modification skills can be very helpful. If these methods do not reduce behavior problems significantly, psychological testing for primary school children to screen for ADHD. If a formal diagnosis of ADHD is made, and behavior modification methods are not sufficient, treatment with both medication and behavior modification methods may be a necessary consideration.

ADHD is a condition that is preventable when it is a learned behavior pattern. Like all psychological disorders, it is a problem that greatly benefits from early intervention.

A pound of prevention, or early intervention, is worth a ton of late attempted cure.

V. Thomas Mawhinney, 11/12/09

Email ItEmail It | Print ItPrint It | CommentsComments (0) | TrackbacksTrackbacks (0) | Flag as offensiveFlag as Offensive

Our Comunity "Strip Joints" and Beyond.

 
 

Our Community “Strip Joints” and Beyond.

It is so popular and comfortable to say that “whatever consenting adults choose to do is okay”. But there are consequences beyond what consenting adults choose to do, when they do “it” publicly. The same can also be said about some of the things that consenting adults do in private.

The hard reality is that many of our newly granted sexual freedoms (illegal less than one life-time ago) are severely damaging everyone, especially our young adults and children. These new sexual freedoms must therefore damaging our culture: How could it be otherwise?

As a psychologist,  I have frequently witnessed the devastating effects of  the scientifically flawed conclusions of  President Johnson’s Committee on Pornography which recommended the legalization of pornography in 1970. In 1986 President Reagan’s Attorney General’s Commission on Pornography concluded that the earlier Commission’s findings of no relation between pornography and antisocial behavior was “starkly obsolete”. We now know much more about the effects of pornographic sexual stimulation upon humans than we did in 1970. What has been learned explains much of our sex-related human suffering and loss brought by a series of ignorant and irresponsible Court decisions mandating a nation-wide torrent of dramatically explicit pornography.

The following is a brief summary of scientific research findings about the effects of pornography viewing upon human thoughts, emotions, and behavior that I have previously published [Mawhinney, V.T. (1998). Behavior and Social Issues, 8,  2, 159-193]. 

1. Violent portrayals of sex can increase sexual aggression in the viewer. Graphic sexual violence is common in XXX and R-rated films rented by adults and teens from   neighborhood video rental stores.
2. Much of  pornography depicts women in grossly disrespected, exploited, and/ or sexually  abused rolls. I am stunned by the absence of outrage among Women’s Liberation organizations.
 3. The millions who masturbate while viewing the deviant sexual displays that flood the internet (teens and kids, urine and defecation, pain and torture, and sex with animals, etc.)  are auto-erotically conditioning their own increased appetite for such portrayals. The same is true of any genre of pornography. 
 4. Both violent and nonviolent sexual portrayals can increase aggression in men when some other impulse-control impairing event is added such as drugs, alcohol, or frustration.
5. Commonly depicted rape scenes in which females finally acquiesce, and enjoy the sex,  perpetuates the idea that female pleasure is a common outcome of forced sex.
6. Viewing rape depictions can reduce the estimated seriousness of such assaults for both men and woman and the severity of the punishment that they recommend for the rapist.
 7. Viewing pornography can cause the viewer to overestimate the commonality of the sexual activities observed. It can also increase the viewers expectations that such behavior will occur in their own relationships with others and that others will probably be willing participants.
8. Viewing pornography “primes” the observer to think about sex more often and this increases the probability of sexual behavior.
 9. Watching attractive male and female sexual models in pornography can reduce the viewer’s judgement of the attractiveness of their own mate,  increasing dissatisfaction.
 10. Pornography was a very small industry in the early 1960’s. By the mid-1990’s its revenues had grown to over 10 billion dollars per year. One recent estimate places this nation’s annual “mainstreamed” pornography earnings at about 56 billion dollars. The legalization of pornography has stimulated monumental new business growth and very substantial new revenues for our predatory government.  

The longer-term consequences of  our incompetent sexual experiment are unprecedented personal and financial costs for increased illegitimate births, sexually transmitted diseases, rapes, child molestations, sexual infidelity in relationships and increased divorce rates. The flood of pornography is a significant partial determinant of all of these painful events. I submit that this is not “new found freedom”,  it is a deadly form of social chaos.

And what about our local strip clubs? The mixture of sexual stimulation, tension,  alcohol, and  frustration in a testosterone “saturated” local strip club frequently ends in physical brutality, violence, and death. Only the naive are surprised and shocked.

Do you really think a community gains more from these sex clubs than it loses? The costs to a city’s reputation are incalculable. The financial losses will be enormous. Consider the costs to law enforcement, emergency medical services, hospitals, and to our judicial and penal system. This “little object lesson” is an example of bad behavioral contagion. It is the spread of damaging behavior patterns within our lives, in large part, caused by the drug and sex practices that are encouraged by our own socioculture.

Of course one can make the First Amendment argument. But our founding fathers could never have dreamed that the meaning of “freedom of expression” would be so distorted to inflict an avalanche of pornography upon this nation. Many of us, born and raised in the 1940’s and 1950’s, felt very free indeed: We enjoyed freedom from the culture-wide pornography related human misery that now enslaves us all.

What do our children learn from all of this? And how many of us care anymore? It saddens me to say this, but each generation appears to be breeding a next generation that is increasingly more troubled than the one before. Our addiction to pornography is a large part of this problem.  If you think that this culture’s sex, drugs, violence, and other impulse-control problems are bad now—just wait. There is much worse to come.

What can be done? The mark of emotionally healthy individuals and cultures is their ability to deny immediate gratification to achieve long-term rewards. All across this great nation, good citizens and their good governments must do all that they can to reverse our cultural sexual addiction contagion— and we must do it very soon. Eliminating the recreational sex industry within your own communities is a step in the right direction.

V. Thomas Mawhinney, 11/11/09

Email ItEmail It | Print ItPrint It | CommentsComments (0) | TrackbacksTrackbacks (0) | Flag as offensiveFlag as Offensive

A Self-Defeating Culture

A Self-Defeating Culture

 Saying and doing things that make us feel loving, caring, compassionate, noble, and needed can frequently be damaging to all concerned. The following four propositions will clarify my meaning.

1. The parent who goes too far in loving, protecting, and “doing” for their child is likely to rear an individual who is, self-centered, anxious, fearful, dependent, helpless and addicted to damaging sources of pleasure.

2. The nation that provides its irresponsibly unemployed, uneducated, destitute, and overly fertile citizens with free money, food, child care, transportation, communication, housing, medical care, and entertainment will raise a rapidly increasing percent of the population who are as described in proposition # 1.

3. Those nations that over-protect other cultures by spending their own resources to save them from the pain of famines, plagues, overpopulation, and bad self-management can retard the development of those cultures and increase their long-range suffering. All cultures must learn to respond independently to the immediate conditions that threaten them or they will perish. To over-protect cultures from the consequences of their own actions has the same predictable effects as the over-protection of children, as discussed in proposition # 1.

4. Cultures live in a Darwinian, naturally selecting, world as do individual organisms and species of organisms. The feel-good concept of a “world culture” must accommodate that fact. Cultures that are currently “fit” (in the evolutionary sense) can destroy themselves by squandering their own precious and dwindling resources to teach other cultures to also be helplessly blind to the immediate contingencies of their own survival.

The clearest single prototype of all four of these levels of maladaptive and self-defeating behavior is us, the United States of America.

 Such a cultural organism, without change, will suffer a decline in its health and viability.

 V. Thomas Mawhinney, 10/15/92

Reviewed and Edited: 11/08/09

Email ItEmail It | Print ItPrint It | CommentsComments (0) | TrackbacksTrackbacks (0) | Flag as offensiveFlag as Offensive

Do, Don't Stew

Do, Don't Stew


"DO,DO,DO RATHER THAN STEW, STEW, STEW ---

THE WORLD RARELY COMES TO AN END."

ALBERT ELLIS

AT A MUNCIE IND. WORKSHOP, 4/6/82
 
V. Thomas Mawhinney, 11/06/09
Email ItEmail It | Print ItPrint It | CommentsComments (0) | TrackbacksTrackbacks (0) | Flag as offensiveFlag as Offensive

Good and Honest Propaganda From 1948

Good and Honest Propaganda From 1948

Wikipedia provides the following definition of propaganda:

Propaganda is neutrally defined as a systematic form of purposeful persuasion that attempts to influence the emotions, attitudes, opinions, and actions of specified target audiences for ideological, political or commercial purposes through the controlled transmission of one-sided messages (which may or may not be factual) via mass and direct media channels.”
Richard Alan Nelson, A Chronology and Glossary of Propaganda in the United States, 1996

Perhaps more of this would help our children (and adults already propagandized in the direction of Socialism) to understand some of what once made America great. Check out this marvelous video cartoon.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mVh75ylAUXY

More of this America!

Thanks to Vick Palenske for sending me this URL.

V. Thomas Mawhinney, 11/05/09

Email ItEmail It | Print ItPrint It | CommentsComments (0) | TrackbacksTrackbacks (0) | Flag as offensiveFlag as Offensive

Disruptive Behavior Disorders In America's Children

Disruptive Behavior Disorders In America’s Children

All children will misbehave from time to time. Fatigue, sickness, stressful situations, and simple immaturity will be enough to ensure some balking, back talk, or outright opposition to parental requests or instructions. Also, as children mature, they have their own social goals and conflicts that can complicate the harmony of family living even further. As my dear father once said with laughter: “Adolescence is God’s way of helping parents to let go.” Mom and Dad had four children, each 5 years apart. We never understood their master plan, but you can be sure that they spent the majority of their years together raising kids. I watched from the vantage point of the eldest and I know that we had marvelous parents (am completely unbiased?). And, of course, we were all “reasonably good kids” (am I totally objective in this judgment, also?).

Even though we were “pretty good” kids, from time to time, there was trouble in paradise and we kids were clearly the trouble with Mom and Dad. Normal kids will almost certainly present problems, but they will present normal problems.

Starting tomorrow, I will post developmental problems that are notable  because they are especially disruptive. They are disruptive to school, normal family settings, many community settings, and to the child’s own social, emotional and educational development.

Therefore they are among those psychological disorders that must be prevented, or improved early, when they first become a problem.

V. Thomas Mawhinney, 11/05/09

Email ItEmail It | Print ItPrint It | CommentsComments (0) | TrackbacksTrackbacks (0) | Flag as offensiveFlag as Offensive

Disruptive Behavior Disorders In America's Children

Disruptive Behavior Disorders In America's Children

All children will misbehave from time to time. Fatigue, sickness, stressful situations, and simple immaturity will be enough to ensure some balking, back talk, or outright opposition to parental requests or instructions. Also, as children mature, they have their own social goals and conflicts that can complicate the harmony of family living even further. As my dear father once said with laughter: “Adolescence is God’s way of helping parents to let go.” Mom and Dad had four children, each 5 years apart. We never understood their master plan, but you can be sure that they spent the majority of their years together raising kids. I watched from the vantage point of the eldest and I know that we had marvelous parents (am completely unbiased?). And, of course, we were all “reasonably good kids” (am I totally objective in this judgment, also?).

Even though we were "pretty good" kids, from time to time, there was trouble in paradise and we kids were clearly the trouble with Mom and Dad. Normal kids will almost certainly present problems, but they will present normal problems.

Starting tomorrow, I will post developmental problems that are notable  because they are especially disruptive. They are disruptive to school, normal family settings, many community settings, and to the child’s own social, emotional and educational development.

Therefore they are among those psychological disorders that must be prevented, or improved early, when they first become a problem.

V. Thomas Mawhinney, 11/05/09

Email ItEmail It | Print ItPrint It | CommentsComments (0) | TrackbacksTrackbacks (0) | Flag as offensiveFlag as Offensive
« Previous1234Next »